Deliverance from Reading and Math Help Hell

In order to help break this destructive cycle, one has to focus on the emotional dynamics that drive this chain reaction rather than on the intellectual content of the reading and math itself. When this happens there are often dramatic improvements in the apparent academic skills and performance. ADHD

Once the emotions have been extinguished, many children increase several grade levels in reading ability in just a few hours, with no specific training.  Likewise, math ability can increase dramatically.  This is not due to any increase in their actual skills.  Rather, it is due to their increased ability to access the skills they already have. 

Unfortunately, many children are in just this situation. Because of intense emotional arousal around academic performance, they're not able to demonstrate the skills that they actually have. This causes misdirected efforts by parents to increase their child’s academic skills rather than reducing the obstacles to performance.

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I am not suggesting that parents should make reading and math the child’s responsibility and not put contingencies on reading and math performance.  Reinforcement and punishment contingencies are often essential to help.  What I am suggesting is that if prompting, nagging, anger, reminding or contingencies are used in a way that cause emotional arousal, they are likely to backfire.  In order to help, parents must stay out of the detail of how reading and math is actually performed. Rather, they need a calm, cool focus and with a minimum of words. The focus needs to be  on when, and where the reading and math is done, as well as on the quality of the completed reading and math, not his effort.

It has to remain his reading and math, not our reading and math. Learning a pattern of completing tasks independently and in a quality fashion is more important than whether any one assignment is done. It is important to have a quiet place set aside that has a a minimum of distraction, that is used only to complete reading and math.  The kitchen table is far too much of a family traffic to be useful for reading and math help.

Unfortunately, such strategies are can be hard to implement properly because of the history of negative parent and child emotional conflict around reading and math help. And, the “devil is in the details” of how such strategies are implemented.  "Almost" or "usually" doing it right seldom works.

Often parents have unsuccessfully tried many traditional approaches to help with reading and math, including tutoring, individual assistance by parents, reward and punishment systems, and time out. Because of parents own history of intense emotional involvement in the process, staying out of the battle may be very difficult.

After this destructive emotional feedback loop between parent and child has been in place for a while, it can be very difficult to stop it without systematically extinguishing the whole emotionally arousing chain of events that drive reading and math help hell. Many times it is necessary to extinguish both the child’s negative emotional toward  the home and school work, as well and the negative feelings that both parent and child have toward reading and math itself. This process is described in my book, ADHD: A Path to Success.

Computer Aided Emotional Restructuring (CAER) is my patented psychotherapy technology that is specifically directed at extinguishing these emotional chain reactions in both parents and children. This drug-free technology is explained in detail in my book, ADHD: A Path to Success.

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